Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Friendship, Facebook-style

Last year, I joined a portrait photography event. At the end of the session, the model asked each of the photographers to add her as a friend on Facebook. I complied.

A few months later, I visited her Facebook page. She already had more than a thousand ‘friends’, and had reached the limit set by the social network. She opened a new account so that she could continue to add friends.

I bet, as a ‘friend’, I mean nothing to her…

(I think Facebook has since raised the limit of friends a member can have.)

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Probably because I uploaded some pictures of models to Facebook, a couple of young girls whom I never knew had wanted to befriend me. Should I confirm them as my friends?

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I posted a question on Facebook: “What is XXX?” I was hoping that someone could clear my doubt. In the end, nobody bothered to answer.

I came to this conclusion:

You can post whatever you like to Facebook – barring something deemed offensive such as nudity – but your friends are too busy to pay attention.

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Friend requests – I don’t know them wor

22 comments:

  1. I don't normally approve people whom I totally dunno...

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  2. very true!! i many times got request from people that i do not know at all adding me as friends..

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  3. i really am puzzled why those people just like to add people as friends without reason but i guess they are competing with each other on their number of "friends"??

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  4. well, at least if i found some mutual friend i'll accept, but those who really have no linkage, sorry but i have to ignore..

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  5. i actually accept whatever friend request last time regardless i know the people because i find it not good to reject..

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  6. but then now, i think with all the privacy breach i gotta think about it.. even have to remove some friends with no iteraction at all from existing friend list - yeah, housekeeping is required..

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  7. The number of friends some people have are absolutely astounding! I bet most of those people on the list are hardly friends at all.

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  8. i dnt normally simply adding friends in my fb, dats y i only approved those i know. :) too much infos in my fb. lol

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  9. Yea my FB already reaching almost 1k 'friends'! :P

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  10. Well...you really don't know them. Better not risk yourself. :D

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  11. day-dreamer
    Haha... you're protective.

    SK
    I think those aspiring models add friends to increase exposure.

    Mei Teng
    Friends are more like 'followers' or fans.

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  12. Caroline
    I have less than 60 friends, but also feel too much info.

    witch
    You haven't added me yet :P

    tekkaus
    But these are pretty gals!

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  13. It's interesting that we welcome commenters (by responding to their comment) on our blog but reject request for friendship on Facebook. I find that quite a paradox. Don't some of us also reveal a lot of info on the blog, photos and all? Do we regard people we don't know who comes by wanting to be our friend as spam? Just wondering..

    KS, what is the XXX in your question, "What is XXX"? Is that what I think it is? If it is, sometimes, people don't want to mess with a question so direct esp when it pertains to that sensitive subject. I may be wrong but a question asked reveals about the questioner just as an answer reveals about the one who answers. My two cents.

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  14. I dont usually approve fren requests by those whom i dunno.

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  15. happysurfer
    Blogs are public. Facebook are private.

    kyh
    Me too...

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  16. Wow! you have so many pretty bimbos adding you as friends!!! How nice!

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  17. I used to think hard and long whether to add strangers with mutual friends or even colleagues as friends. It bothered me a lot. So I learnt this trick and added them all.... after 1 week or 1 month, I deleted them quietly as I value my privacy.= without offending them. Only 1 or 2 realised I deleted them and came back AGAIN.

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  18. I still think Facebook is good as I managed to locate many long lost friends from different corners of this world.

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  19. So are you adding me as your FB friend???? I promise I will be good!

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  20. 新年快乐,万事如意! ^_^

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  21. Twitlight
    What is your FB account?

    花木蘭
    還早哪!

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  22. Another Smart post from you Admin :)

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